confident

but not cocky

not neccessarily muscular or super fit

good sense of humour

willingness to dance?

money?

no mention of looks

no mention of style sense

when you ask a man what he looks for in a woman the answers will often be physical because the question is interpreted as what attracts you to women upon first seeing them

the same question is interpreted by a women as what traits would make a man a suitable long term partner

i know what i find physically attractive

i have a rough idea of what women find physically unattractive and i try to avoid being those things

i used to be told that i looked older than i was

i had an air of maturity and experience beyond my years

ive reached a point where people now say i look exactly as i should for my age

which means i havent matured or gained experience since those previous comments

to echo a phrase coined by a friend i feel that my soul is frozen

but in the time and space way not the icy cold way that he suggests